Question: #Hilda, I know you are not in favor of getting married in Seychelles, especially if both partners have different nationalities. But if you now get married in another country, such as the Maldives, Ibiza, Costa Rica, Australia. Do you have those objections?
Answer: yes. People who are getting married spend a lot of money and time on the wedding dress, the invitations, and the party organization, but hardly ever pay attention to the legal consequences of their choice.
Which is weird, since those consequences are gigantic, especially when things go wrong with the marriage.
According to international law, which applies in most countries, you must live in that country for at least a year to be able to get divorced.
If you do not live there, you cannot divorce.
And if you live with your foreign partner in the UAE, you cannot divorce in the Netherlands. After all; you don’t live there.
If you both have Dutch nationality, or you have made a choice of law for Dutch law, you can get divorced in the Netherlands. Even if you live in the UAE.
But what happens very often in marriages with a foreign partner is that after the marriage breaks down, but the divorce is not yet complete, one of them goes back to their own country to start over.
Or look for a place as far away from the ghastly ex as possible.
And then I get an email from the horrible ex who still lives in the UAE. And I have to let them know that there is no separation in the UAE either. After all; both parties no longer live in the UAE. And then a situation arises where you cannot divorce (cannot dissolve your marriage). Unless you are going to live in the Netherlands again as a Dutch person.
Some people choose not to dissolve the marriage and just let each other go.
No drama, until either wants to get married again.
or if the woman is pregnant with her new partner.
Or one of them dies.
Then there are all kinds of unforeseen legal consequences because the law simply attaches strict and enforceable obligations to your marriage.